TEXT: 1 Corinthians 7:1-6:
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
We are in a series of messages titled “Praying Through the Bible: A Series on Every Passage and Verse Regarding Prayer in the Bible.” The purpose of this series is to encourage and motivate you to pray to the God of the Bible. We highlighted each of these over 500 verses and passages in the Prayer Motivator Devotional Bible. So far, we have completed 241 messages in this series.
This is message #242 titled, Prayer and Sex, Part 2.
For those of you who think a minister ought not to deal with the issue of sex in marriage in a mixed company, may I say to you, do not watch any movies that contain sexual scenes, stop watching porn, and stop lusting after women or men because you’re not taking care of business at home.
Married Christian couples have a better sex life than the world simply because Jesus Christ resolves a lot of issues in the Christian couple’s individual lives that Christless married couples cannot possibly have the benefits of such as less stress and pressure about finances and the material things of this life. There should be peace in the souls of Christian married couples.
Many women, pastors wives included, don’t enjoy marital relations with their husbands and don’t have orgasms after a while because they are full of bitterness, resentment, and hatred towards their husband because of something their husband said or did in the past. Then they complain about not being happy or satisfied with the marital relationship because they don’t open up like they did in the beginning.
If the thrill is gone in your marriage, as it obviously is in most marriages, when it comes down to sex just like other duties in marriage, it’s not a matter of how you feel. There are many things that have to be done in a marriage such as cooking the food, washing the dishes, cutting the grass, and taking out the trash. It doesn’t matter how you feel about doing these things, these things have to be done. Sex has to happen between a husband and a wife on a regular basis otherwise you’re asking for serious trouble in your marriage. In most cases, the husband will be ready and if the wife would join him, she’ll get ready too. And amazingly, once you get started, you will feel like doing it.
In this passage, Paul responds to questions regarding celibacy and marriage that had been sent to him from the church at Corinth. Even though Paul, speaking with “permission” from the Lord, says that it is good for men and women to be celibate, he also provides guidelines for those who are unable to remain so. In verse 4, speaking of sex within marriage, he writes that the wife’s body belongs to the husband and the husband’s body belongs to the wife. He says that neither the husband nor the wife should “defraud” or “deprive” the other of sexual relations. The reason for this command is because deprivation opens up the door for the temptation of adultery. If a husband and wife are not coming together, they must consider whether they are abstaining for legitimate reasons or whether they are just giving the devil room to work.
So, what are the legitimate reasons for which a husband and wife can abstain from sex? Paul only gives one: fasting and prayer. The reason why Paul previously said it is better to be celibate is because a celibate person is better able to give himself or herself wholly to the Lord and His work. He or she does not have any of the responsibilities and obligations of, marriage, and family. Such responsibilities and obligations take up a large part of our lives, and they weigh on our minds, our spirits, and our emotions. A person who does not have such involvement can put more of themselves into the Lord’s work.
Paul writes that it is fine for married couples to abstain in order to fast, pray, and better serve God. But there are some restrictions on the abstaining. First, both parties must agree to it. Paul says, “defraud ye not one another except it be with consent.” Neither the husband nor the wife can unilaterally decide not to have sex with their spouse for any period of time. They must come to an agreement on the matter. And, second, if both husband and wife decide to abstain, they must do so only for a short period of time. Paul says, “Ye must come together again, lest Satan tempt you.” Both parties must agree to the length of time they plan on abstaining.
Paul’s advice is intended to maximize a couple’s fidelity to each other while, at the same time, maximizing their spiritual growth and their potential for service to the Lord. Some might not be willing to say it, but prayer and sex are two of the main ingredients in a strong, long-lasting Christian marriage.
Michael P. Johnson wrote this poem which encourages husbands and wives to pray together:
Come join me now in prayer, my friend
Unite our souls in praise
Together, let our knees now bend
To the Ancient of Days
In spirit, let us be as one
Let’s bow before God’s throne
Let’s thank Him for the victory won
Upon the tree alone
In gratitude let’s raise our voice
Let’s celebrate and sing
Within our hearts, let us rejoice
That Christ is truly King
Let’s pray each day as a family
That our selfish world may hear
The truth that sets their souls free
And learn their God to fear
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Now, if you are with us today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, your first prayer needs to be what we call the Sinner’s Prayer. First, please understand that you are a sinner, just as I am, and that you have broken God’s laws. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”
Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.
Romans 10:9 & 13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved… For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
If you believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead, and you want to trust Him for your salvation today, please pray with me this simple prayer: Holy Father God, I realize that I am a sinner and that I have done some bad things in my life. For Jesus Christ sake, please forgive me of my sins. I now believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ died for me, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life today. Amen.
If you just trusted Jesus Christ as your Saviour, and you prayed that prayer and meant it from your heart, I declare to you that based upon the Word of God, you are now saved from Hell and you are on your way to Heaven. Welcome to the family of God! Congratulations on trusting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. You have done the most important thing in life. For more information to help you grow in your newfound faith in Christ, go to Gospel Light Society.com and read “What To Do After You Enter Through the Door”. Jesus Christ said in John 10:9, “I am the door, by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”
God loves you. We love you. And may God bless you.